I'm a Problem Solver, Delving into my Innermost Depths for Solutions

I'm a Problem Solver, Delving into my Innermost Depths for Solutions - At my core, I'm a fixer. I plunge deep into the hidden compartments where I store the struggles I wish to avoid - pain, paralyzing fears, emotional wounds, trauma, imperfections, regrets, and more. Whenever I collaborate with my coaches to shed these burdens, three distinct tendencies emerge a compulsion to aid my loved ones, a skewed pride in my self-reliance, and a relentless drive to accumulate knowledge and tools.

Perhaps you've caught a glimpse of my story through conversations, talks, or articles. My upbringing was woven with heroes, individuals who embraced roles in the military, law enforcement, healthcare, and lifeguarding – professions rooted in service. Amidst their valor, I gained an invaluable understanding of their struggles, battles, and the toll they bore, a perspective that eventually paved the way for my journey as a certified mindset coach specializing in NLP. I harnessed these insights to support others, much like the heroes who shaped my youth.

A familiar adage attributed to Aristotle resonates here: "Give me a child for seven years, and I'll show you the man." The notion implies that formative years, specifically childhood, leave an indelible mark on a person's values, beliefs, and behaviors. During the first seven years of life, the subconscious mind is receptive, absorbing every experience and perception, shaping the foundation of who we become. This stage of life is characterized by a Theta state, a heightened receptivity that allows for seamless integration of experiences.

Recall those moments when you were captivated by a sports event, concert, or school play, your phone held high to capture every second. Children mirror this behavior – they intake, absorb, and internalize their surroundings. However, it's not until their conscious minds mature around ages five to seven that they can truly comprehend and process what they've absorbed. This period establishes the core values imprinted through the men I admired, values that continue to guide my life choices.

The legacy of good men endures a chain reaction echoing from one generation to the next. The values I observed in my family laid a foundation that persists to this day. These values shape men into the individuals they aspire to be, influencing choices and behaviors. They form the backbone of character, nurturing traits like honesty, loyalty, compassion, and respect.

Change is inevitable. While the debate over the greater influence of genetics, environment, or social context endures, my approach leans towards simplicity – a philosophy Grandma Judy once shared: "I want you to know what I know. What you do with that is up to you. I love you either way." My journey through early childhood memories, coupled with NLP techniques and coaching, illuminated my path toward personal growth and change. This path holds potential for every individual, regardless of their upbringing or circumstances, to become the person they aspire to be.

My connection with the military, law enforcement, and first responders emanates from this foundation. Serving those who dedicate their lives to service aligns with my values and purpose. Regardless of your gender, profession, or age, if you're struggling or seeking support, don't hesitate to reach out. If you're part of a support group for service members or their families, consider me as a potential speaker. I don't possess all the answers, but I offer my unique skills and understanding.

As the world whirls in chaos, with division and blame rampant, let me share an NLP tool that can foster transformation in your interactions and mindset. In NLP, we say, "People are not their behaviors." This reminder shifts the focus from the person to the behavior, making conversations less confrontational and more solution-oriented. For instance, instead of saying, "Whenever you do this, it makes me angry at you," reframe it as, "When I see (THE BEHAVIOR), it triggers anger in me." Remember, most communication is non-verbal, so tread carefully.

I'm here to share what I've learned, leaving the choice of how to use it in your hands. Regardless of your decision, know that my support remains steadfast.